The Hubs and I have become pretty big fans of the new Late Night with Stephen Colbert. Recently, he did a blurb on personality types as a way to point out the difference between his old Comedy Central character and the “real deal” Colbert.
This got us talking: What are OUR personality types?
I had taken the test several months ago, when my sister was doing them for her job. I am an INFJ: Introversion, Intuition, Feeling, Judging. “The Advocate.”
But Hubs hadn’t taken one in years, and couldn’t remember the results. So I sent him to 16personalities.com to take the quiz. No surprise to either one of us…he’s an ISTJ. Introversion (although he was pretty middle ground, more ambivert), Sensing, Thinking, Judging. “The Logistician.”
Of course, I don’t need a personality test to know that my very Type-A, retail manager husband is an extremely deliberate rule follower who sees the world as black and white with no gray areas. However, I think that knowing where each of us fall on the Myers-Briggs matrix is a valuable thing to understand. I wish more businesses and schools used it, to be honest.
Learning about your personality type can help break down certain pieces of your life that you previously hadn’t considered before. For example, today I read this on my file:
Their passion, poor patience for routine maintenance, tendency to present themselves as an ideal, and extreme privacy tend to leave INFJs with few options for letting off steam. People with this personality type are likely to exhaust themselves in short order if they don’t find a way to balance their ideals with the realities of day-to-day living.
Knowing this about myself is key to understanding the very nature of my anxieties. I melt myself down so often because of my severe introversion and the lack of my capacity for just…everything. Up until recently I’ve tried to keep up with EVERYTHING myself and when I had my breakdown, it all had to stop. Now, it’s like I’m working on a depleted battery. Very rarely do I have a full charge anymore. So now I know I have to limit what I do, and minimize the stressors I take on.
There’s a flipside to this as well–get to know the personality types of those close to you. By knowing the types of your partner, your best friend, your family members, even your boss/coworkers if your company uses Myers-Briggs, you can learn how to interact with them more effectively. Politics has always been a terrible conversation for The Hubs and I, and his personality profile really illustrates why. It says specifically that he does not sway his opinion, and he looks only at facts, not empathy. I am logical, but I look at the human side too. Not a very good combination when looking at social justice issues. We should probably just steer clear, huh? (It doesn’t help that we are at opposite ends of the seesaw politically, too.)
That’s just one example, though. Sit down tonight and go through your personality profile on 16personalities.com. You might be interested in what you find out! Getting to know yourself is certainly helpful for your mental health!
Disclaimer: I’m not sponsored by 16personalities.com. It’s just a great resource for Myers-Briggs profiles. There are lots of sites that provide the quiz, if you have one that you prefer.