30th Birthday Resolutions

Today is my 30th birthday.


A week ago, I made a joke about the world ending before I made it here. I honestly was kidding, but it really has felt like that since Election Day.

Turning 30 in this environment is so much scarier than I had anticipated this phase of my life to be. I wanted to try again at sterilization–but that may be even harder now. The progress that had been made towards mental health reform is possibly at a halt too. And who knows what is going to happen to our economy and investments.

But I’m a privileged white CIS woman. So many of my friends are scared for not only their rights, but their lives. They are being harassed daily online and in real life. I do not live with that fear.

I turn 30 today, in a world fraught with uncertainty. Big resolutions aren’t normally something I do–I usually start small and work up, since that is easier on my anxiety-ridden brain. But I have some specific thoughts about how I want to present myself to the world in this next decade.

I have been listening, watching, learning for awhile now, trying to understand how I, as a white CIS woman, should treat my marginalized neighbors, and how to fight for them. I will still be doing this. I will never be done learning.

But I need to speak more. My voice is needed more. Racism and bigotry and misogyny and prejudice is getting worse every moment–this election gave so many people permission to hate openly. I cannot stand idly by while my friends become casualties.

I cannot expect myself to be perfect–and that is what has held me back up to this point–but I have to expect myself to be better. I must be BETTER than I was in my 20s. Always learning, always fighting.

This blog is a safe space. I will not tolerate prejudice against marginalized peoples of any kind. And please know that if you feel I have made a misstep, as I probably will, unintentional as it may be, your criticism and correction will be heard and appreciated with an open mind and heart. I can always be reached on any of my social media, or my email address is ilayreadingreviews@gmail.com.

Thank you, my friends. I love you. Be safe.



I had planned on doing a completely different, shorter post today, just a blog update. But, I wanted to let you know what was on my heart.

Still, I want to give you a little update on what you will see as far as posts, as I am changing up the format. I’ve been expecting way too much of myself for awhile as far as content, and I cannot keep up with the 5 day-a-week post schedule I was racing towards prior to my break. It completely broke me down.

So, as of today, I will have posts on Tuesday and Friday. Tuesday’s posts will often be new books, as those are when the ARCs I am reading are published. Fridays will usually be older books. This pattern won’t always follow, but that will be generally what happens.

I have plenty of book reviews scheduled from the hiatus, so stay tuned. There are lots of things coming up! Again, thank you for your patience. I very much needed that break.

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